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Nursing Homes Are Suing Friends & Neighbors. Do Not Be A Victim.

How Can You Be Held Responsible For Someone Else’s Bills?

1. Friend or Relation Needs Long-Term Care. You are here to help. To get your relative, friend or neighbor into a long-term care facility. Just helping out. Being nice.
2. Reality Check. Sometimes there is no alternative to residential care.
3. Who Pays? Nursing homes are unbelievably expensive. $400, $500, $600. Per day.
4. Medicaid Pays? Even broke people must apply for Medicaid. Medicaid rules are torture to understand and worse to follow.
5. When Medicaid Does Not Pay. Many folks lose months of Medicaid eligibility when applying. Tens of thousands of dollars that Medicaid will never pay.
6. Can’t Get Blood Out of a Turnip. The resident is broke. But you are not.
7. Follow the money. Why does the nursing home pursue you? “Because that’s where the money is.”
8. Even National Public Radio has noticed! Nursing homes are stepping up collection efforts.
9. What To Do? Federal law already prohibits the worst tactics.
10. Do Not Be A Victim! Help Your Loved Ones… And Protect Yourself. Your loved ones need you. Will you be victimized? Not necessarily.

3 Federal Laws

Three federal laws protect seniors, their friends, and families.

Nursing Home Reform Act

They cannot make you “assume personal responsibility for any cost of the resident’s care.” Personal guarantee requirements are illegal. But they will try anyway.

Fair Debt Collection Practices Act Fair Credit Reporting Act

They cannot sue you. They cannot ruin your credit rating. Well, at least they are not supposed to.
When they violate the Nursing Home Reform Act, they also violate the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act. When they report to the credit agencies, they also violate the Fair Credit Reporting Act too. Trifecta!

Can They Do That? Nope! Can They Get Away With It?
Only If You Let Them!

Q: If these bad practices are so illegal, how do they get away with it?
A: Because you let them.

Q: How can you protect yourself?
A: Glad you asked. Read on…

Sign The Papers!
No, I Will Not Sign The Papers!

Be Prepared! They want you to sign the contract. You do not want to sign the contract. They cannot make you sign the contract. Be ready. Prepare yourself. Do not be surprised. Signing the contract will be presented as reasonable. “But everybody signs!” You are not everybody.

1. Take a Tip from Nancy Reagan and Mr. T: “Just Say No!”

You drive your friend or family member to the nursing home. The admissions clerk has a whole file of papers. For you. To sign. They are willing you to sign. They are wanting you to sign. They are waiting for you to sign. Refuse. Take a lesson from the mule. Sit down. Do not budge. The answer is “No.”

“But somebody must sign!” they say. Fine. Let the soon-to-be resident sign the contract. Remember that under the Nursing Home Reform Act, only the resident can be required to assume personal liability for their care.

“But your loved one/friend/relative is not mentally competent.” they say. How do they know? Only the probate court can decide whether someone is “legally incapacitated.” If the soon-to-be resident is an adult, they are presumed competent. And able to sign.

“But that signature is just a scrawl!” they say. Just remind them that any ink on the page is good enough. A happy face works. Scribbles are just fine. Doubt it? Can you decipher your doctor’s signature? Or your lawyer’s? What does that prescription mean? Do not let them buffalo you. Clients frequently comment that my own signature is remarkably clear. You can actually read it! Credit goes to Sister Mary Rachel in the second grade who taught penmanship. But to be legally valid, any squiggle will do.

What if the soon-to-be resident is incapable of even a modest squiggle?

2. Remember: Important to Them Does Not Mean Important to You.

Your loved one has an episode. 9-1-1. Off to the hospital. Then to rehabilitation at the nursing facility. Your loved one, friend or neighbor is already at the facility. While visiting, they want you to sign “for our records.” Why would you sign? The care is already in place. Urgency on their part does not create urgency on your part.

“If you don’t sign, we will be forced to kick them out!” they say. Remind them that there are only five (5) specific reasons to evict a resident:

1. Does not need the level of care;
2. Does not pay;
3. Endangers health or safety of other residents;
4. Home cannot provide for the resident’s needs;
5. Closure of the nursing home.

Notice that these reasons do not include: Because a family member or friend refused to sign the contract. Let them huff and puff. They cannot discharge without a 30-day notice and discharge care plan. No worries.

Sign The Papers!
Yes, I Will Sign The Papers!

You are tired. Feeling guilty. Harassed. You forgot the good advice you read above. They wore you down. You give in and agree to sign the contract. Pressure!

But first! Read the damn thing… Let your elder law counsel read it for you. Here’s what to watch out for:

1. Liability Language. Remember that the Nursing Home Reform Act protects you from responsibility for your loved one’s bills. But not if you voluntarily agree. So do not voluntarily agree. If you see the words: guarantee, guarantor, surety, hold harmless, financial responsibility, joint and several liability, or similar words. These are red flags, screaming sirens. Draw a line through any language you do not understand. And if you wind up with pages of words with lines through them, good for you. Blatant violations of the Nursing Home Reform Act like this are pretty unusual.
2. Responsible Party. Frequently, designating you as the “responsible party” or “financially responsible party” simply means you agreed to act as attorney in fact under a power of attorney. And that’s OK. Just be sure that whenever you sign anything, add “, POA” to your signature. And beware of attempts to sneak personal liability language past you…
3. Accurate, Timely Medicaid Application. Do not promise to file the Medicaid application. Especially, do not promise to file a Medicaid application accurately, or completely, or in a timely manner. If you screw up the application, then you are on the hook. Medicaid applications are like tax audits. You must have records. Lots of records. Up to five (5) years of records. And it is torture! That’s why we have Elder Law attorneys to figure this stuff out. Many, many Medicaid applications are denied. For all sorts of reasons. Now you are responsible for the bills. And the most expensive Medicaid applications are those that are done “for free” by the nursing home.
4. Using Resident’s Assets to Pay for Care. Seems reasonable, doesn’t it? But what if you cannot get access to the resident’s money or property? How can you comply? Did you just agree to go to probate court for guardianship and conservatorship? Maybe. What if the power of attorney you have from the resident is incomplete? Not all powers of attorney are created equal. Some are good. Others are awful. And then there are the complications relating to the assets themselves. Does your friend share joint tenancy of the family farm or cottage? What if you cannot sell the property? What if the market is bad?

What if everything looks fine, but the bank simply refuses to accept the Power of Attorney? Line through this sort of thing… you’ll be glad you did!

You can get long-term care benefits without going broke. Medicaid wants you broke. But you do not have to accept what Medicaid wants. You can protect what you have earned. Here’s how:

How Medicaid Works
What If You Give Away Your Stuff?

What if you give away your stuff and then apply for Medicaid benefits? Medicaid will say, “We will not help you. You had stuff and gave it away. And so we will not pay.” This is called the “Penalty Period.” Medicaid will excuse itself for a period of time. The more you gave away, the longer Medicaid will not pay. Right now, for every $10,000 you give away, Medicaid will not pay for a month. Give away $120,000, Medicaid will not pay for an entire year! But then Medicaid will pay.

In the meantime, while Medicaid is not paying, the nursing home is suing you. And your kids. And your friends, And your first-grade teacher. And anyone else you gave stuff to. You thought you could keep the house? Ha-ha. You thought you could keep an automobile. Yuk-yuk. Whoops!

Funny thing, though. What if you gave away your stuff more than five (5) years ago? What if sixty-one (61) months ago you gave all that stuff away? Then you applied for Medicaid? Things are different. Now Medicaid does not care that you ever had that stuff at all. Does not matter.

So perhaps you should give all your stuff away. Right now. To the kids. Your neighbors. Your first-grade teacher. Then wait for five (5) years. And if you ever need long-term care after that, no problem! Medicaid does not care that you had that stuff and gave it away. Great Plan!

By now, the sharpest knives in the drawer have spotted the problem with this brilliant approach, right? If you give your stuff away, then you have no stuff. And you like your stuff. What to do?

What If You Give Away Your Stuff Without Giving Away Your Stuff?

How can you give away your stuff without giving away your stuff? By using a particular kind of trust, that’s how. For Medicaid purposes, you gave your stuff away. For federal tax purposes, state tax purposes, common sense purposes, you did not give your stuff away.

The IRS doesn’t think you did anything when you put your assets in this type of trust. Medicaid says you “divested” those assets. Medicaid says you gave those assets away. Medicaid starts the Five-Year Clock. Five (5) years after putting those assets into that trust, Medicaid will not count those assets as yours. And you will qualify for the Medicaid benefits you have paid for. Without sacrificing your lifesavings, cottage, other stuff.

Why Should You Want To Qualify For Medicaid Benefits And Keep Your Stuff?

Why? Do you like paying for the same thing twice? Are you opposed to getting any return on your tax dollars? Does the government know what to do with your money better than you do? Would it be dreadful to receive the government benefits you’ve paid for? And to have additional life savings to purchase additional goods and services? Is it awful to get the same deal from the government that irresponsible folks get? Would you prefer to be flat, busted broke and forced to go to a nursing home than to supplement at-home Medicaid with life savings to remain at home? Are your kids and grandchildren so undeserving and ungrateful that you’d rather give your money to the government?

This Is Too Good To Be True! Tricksy Stuff Like This Never Works For Regular Folks!

Plus, It Must Be Wrong Or Immoral Or Something Else That’s Bad Or My Planners Would Have Told Me All About It! And What If I Move Out Of State? And Give Me A Minute And I’ll Think Of Something Else…

On February 8, 2006, Congress overhauled the Medicaid system. Congress replaced 50 states going in 50 different directions with some general principles that apply to everybody. Seventeen years ago, I was shocked when this happened. The Medicaid landscape was rewritten, much to the distress of our long-term care clients. Tools and techniques that had been proven reliable were wiped out. But there was a silver lining to this dark cloud of Medicaid reform.

No longer did it make sense to wait-and-see. The environment was different. Now we had some assurance that a Michigan plan could work in Florida. Or Texas. Or South Carolina. But not California, nothing works in California.

Not only did we have a legal structure that worked from coast to coast, but we could also rely on that structure to be stable. And so, it has proved. Over the last 17 years, thousands of these LifePlanning™ trusts have been implemented by regular folks. And they have worked. Every time. Saving millions of dollars. For regular folks. To maintain dignity. To preserve families. To keep the promise that hard work, saving, planning, and doing the right things will have good consequences for you, your spouse, your family.

For every Medicaid application involving these trusts, we submit a full copy of the trust and all the supporting documents. Total disclosure. Candid honesty. Written evidence. Full documentation. This stuff works because we scrupulously, thoroughly, exhaustively comply with every law, rule, precept, and policy.

Going broke is a choice. Your choice. It is not chance, bad luck, or misfortune.

 


 

Why Don’t You Deserve A Little Payback For All The Taxes You Paid In?

Why Do You Want To Spend Your Last Nickel On Long-Term Care?

Why Shouldn’t The Government Spend Your Money For You?

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long-term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society,

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all. It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

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Because Selling Nana’s Cottage Seemed Like A Good Idea, At The Time… Idiots!
A Little Bit Of Smarts, A Future Of Golden Memories

Birds Do It, Bees Do It, Even Educated Fleas Do It
Let’s Do It! Let’s Go To The Lake!

Sincere Apologies to Cole Porter

In uncivilized countries, such as those in Europe and Asia, new workers start out with 6 weeks of mandatory vacation (which they confusingly call “holiday”). Not including public holidays (which they call “festivals” or something). What do these folks do with such excessive periods of sloth and inactivity? Who knows? Who cares?

In America, on the other hand, we have weekends. And summer! And a week or two of “vacation”. And being Americans, we do not wish to waste this time. If Americans were as sedentary and unambitious as our global neighbors, we could spend this time in sidewalk cafés, art museums and reading. Improving our minds. Getting culture. Ghastly stuff. “Deliver us O Lord, we pray…”

Unlike our fellow travelers on Spaceship Earth, all true Americans find home improvement projects irresistible. Paint the walls. Build a deck. Plant a garden. Cut the grass. Replace, polish, fix or improve whatever has not been recently replaced, polished, fixed or improved. Pitiful, benighted foreigners have foreign places with palaces, temples, pagodas, and castles. Blessed, muscular Americans have Lowe’s, Harbor Freight, and Home Depot. Seems like an easy choice.

Sooner or later, though, all true Americans feel the restless urge to get out of Dodge, at least on the weekends. In the summertime. Or hunting season. We ran out of things to improve around the house. The deer ate all the tomato plants. It’s too hot. We were bored. So we got another house. In God’s country!

In the American Tradition, the second home could be a house. Or single wide. Perhaps a shack with no indoor plumbing or insulation. On a 40 foot lot. At the lake, at the shore, in the woods, somewhere other than here. From Idlewild in Lake County to Beaver Island in Lake Michigan, American middle class workers by the thousands filled the developments which sprang up around every lake, pond, and ditch within driving distance. And because the lake wasn’t big enough, we dug canals, dammed creeks, and otherwise expanded our Water Wonderland. Magnificent! And not only lakes, but the woods filled with weekend escapes too! Glorious!

At grandmother’s cottage many of us learned to swim and fish. Caught tadpoles and watched them grow to frogs. Searched for salamanders under logs and rocks. Got mosquito bites and poison ivy. Fell in the mud Played in the sand. Went ice-fishing in the winter.

Campfires on the shore. Remember?

Whatever happened to that place? How much would it cost to buy something similar today? Why did we get rid of it? Too bad our kids and grandkids won’t have the experiences we did. Or the memories. At least they have iPads.

The Family Cottage LifeCycle

To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:
2 A time to be born, And a time to die; 6 A time to gain, And a time to lose;
A time to keep,
And a time to throw away;
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2,6

Is it a ridiculous idea that there is a lifecycle to family cottages and recreation properties? There is a routine evolution in the relationship between family and property. Is it a bad idea to recognize the lifecycle and work with it? Are you against preserving unique opportunities for your family?

The Family Cottage Lifecycle:
1. Young Child: Best. Place. Ever!
2. Teenager: So stupid. Boring. Smells funny.
3. Young Adult: My life is busy. I have no time for that place. If I inherit a share, I’m selling it… I need money for tuition/new car/down payment/taxes…
4. Parent of Young Child: Why did we ever sell the cottage? We can’t even afford to rent at the lake today.
5. Older and Wiser: If I ever get the opportunity, I won’t make that mistake again.

We all pass through seasons in our lives. As we gain experience, some important-seeming situations will fade to nothing. Other events will become more meaningful as time goes by. Wisdom and perspective cannot be taught, only learned. Growing up is the tuition that must be paid for insight.

Are long-term decisions best left to the youngest, least- experienced folks? Is it wrong for those with proven perception and prudence to plan for the long-term? Do you sacrifice long term gain for short term pleasure?

Estate Planning Done Wrong
Two Estate Planning Blunders That Guarantee Failure

Traditional estate planning, if it has any purpose at all, dumps your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Don’t much care what happens to you while you are alive.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long- term care?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for.

LifePlanning™ means you do not have to sell the cottage and “spend down” the proceeds. Now what to do with the recreational property?

Traditional estate planning offers two options:
1. Circular Firing Squad or Last Man Standing
2. The Corporate Model or Last One Out is a Rotten Egg

Circular Firing Squad is easy, cheap and disastrous. The Corporate Model is not easy, not cheap, and not as disastrous.

Circular Firing Squad

Putting all the kids “on the deed” is the circular firing squad. It is the easiest, cheapest, most popular, and worst possible way to leave recreation property to kids.

“Last Man Standing” is the most common Circular Firing Squad method. This involves naming all of the children or other beneficiaries as Joint Tenants with full Rights of Survivorship (JTWROS) on the deed. As joint tenants with rights of survivorship, the last living person owns the entire property. Did you plan to disinherit most of the family?

JTWROS deeds also deny Medicaid benefits to your kids and their spouses. Medicaid treats their share as if it was cash in the bank. But it is NOT cash in the bank, it is a fractional interest that is totally locked up in the property. And now your kids are disqualified from Medicaid. Whoops!

But that is not the worst. JTWROS deeds have no rules. Other than each person can fully use the property without the others’ permission.

Congratulations! Your child is the new president of the Pagan Assassins Mud Wrestling Team – Australian Rules. Your child invites the entire 32 member, mixed gender team to the cottage. On the 4th of July. Your child has never paid their share of the taxes, utilities or maintenance. When the Pagan Assassins leave, the place is a bloody shambles. And there is nothing the other kids can do about it. In fact, since you signed a standard, immediately effective, JTWROS deed, there is nothing YOU can do about it. Not even dead yet and already you have lost control of your property. Did you know that when you signed on for this quick and easy solution?

Ladybird to the Rescue? You may have used a ladybird or transfer on death deed to create this living hell. Good News! At least the suffering will not begin until after you have passed on to your reward. Then the JTWROS takes effect and we are off to the races.

You may also create a Circular Firing Squad using a “Tenants in Common” deed. The TIC deed gives individual shares to each child while you retain a share. Unlike JTWROS, each child owns a piece that they can give to the grandkids. Or sell to the Pagan Assassins. Just as with JTWROS, there are no rules.

Did I mention that each Circular Firing Squad method leaves the other kids open to liability claims from the unsanctioned “activities”? And it does no good for them to abandon the property, now they can be prosecuted for housing code violations. And please! Do not get me started on that methamphetamine lab in the basement. Or the fentanyl stockpile in the shed. Oh my!

If you are going to create a Circular Firing Squad, use the TIC method. If they all hate each other enough, they can go to probate court, sue one another, and force a sale. Thanks Mom! Thanks Dad! Great planning!

The Corporate Model: Last One Out Is A Rotten Egg

Do you really want to leave stuff to the kids without any rules? Is blunt force trauma the best way to make sure your grandkids will learn how to swim at the lake? Do you want to empower one of your kids to hold the others hostage?

There are many permutations of the Corporate Model. Most use a limited liability company to hold the real estate and give shares to the kids.

And there are rules. And governing provisions. And limited liability for the kids. Still have that pesky Medicaid problem with disqualification, but I guess you cannot have everything.

A general rule in a corporate structure is that minority members can sell their shares and get out. The usual Cottage LLC requires the other members to buy out the one who wants to sell. And if they do not… say hello to the Pagan Assassins.

Doesn’t seem like such a big deal. One kid wants to move to the Himalayas and commune with the mountain spirits. That kid is not planning to come back. Or perhaps another kid wants his money to buy a car. The cottage does not seem so important right now. The problem is not one of law. The buyout provisions are clear and enforceable.

The problem is that as soon as one kid wants out, so do the rest. The other kids don’t want to pay, frequently they are not able to pay. It was a blessing to have had the cottage so long, but now it must go. Over and over again, if one kid wants out, they all do. Last one out is a rotten egg!

The Corporate Model fails because it depends on the continued unanimous support of all the family members. The chain is only as strong as its weakest link.

What if there were no links? What if no individual could torpedo the entire family’s legacy?

The National Park Model: Recipe For Success

There is nothing so American as our national parks. The scenery and the wildlife are native. The fundamental idea behind the parks is native. It is, in brief, that the country belongs to the people, that it is in process of making for the enrichment of the lives of all of us. The parks stand as the outward symbol of the great human principle.

—Franklin D. Roosevelt

You will never go to Yosemite National Park. You have Yosemite-phobia. And a doctor’s note to prove it. Since you will never go to Yosemite, you write to the National Park Service. You demand your share of the value of Yosemite. Cash me out! Do you expect a response?

Roosevelt’s “fundamental idea” is that the national parks belong to everyone, down through the generations. The big idea is simple: Preserve it now or lose it forever.

Isn’t that the idea behind leaving the family cottage to the family? Could you afford, right now, to purchase your cottage, cabin, hunting land? Of course not! Lake Michigan properties that sold in the $20-30,000 range in the 60’s and 70’s are in the millions now. If you can find one. And the same is true of smaller lakes. The wild price inflation is less for hunting land, but still forbidding.

At the turn of the last century, a few visionaries like Teddy Roosevelt and John Muir saw that without national preservation efforts, irreplaceable natural treasures would be lost. In other countries, the rich and the royal preserved land for their own benefit. In America, we did it for all of us. And our descendants.

The National Park Model is a new way of looking at your cottage or recreational property. You are making a promise to your future family that short-term considerations will not outweigh long term goals.

The basic principles are straightforward and are familiar to anyone who has ever traveled or camped in a national, state or local park:
1. Rules for Use. Family members are stewards of a gift. Rules for use and care will be clear and must be observed. There will be an evenhanded system for allocating the available space among various family members.
2. Financial Responsibility. Budgets will be prepared, including all taxes, utilities, insurance and sinking funds for all capital improvements, including the roof, plumbing, fixtures and utilities. Present and future expenses will be identified and incorporated.
3. Nobody Rides for Free. You can’t get in a Park without a sticker to pay for the road. You can’t stay overnight without paying for your campsite.

You can’t stay at the Cottage without paying the necessary charge to cover your share of the budget. In advance.

There are other provisions that allow for limited liability and definition of membership. These can all be tailored to the specific needs of individual families.

On March 1, 1872, President Ulysses S. Grant created Yellowstone as the first national park in the United States and the world. For over 150 years, Yellowstone has been preserved and available to all Americans.

Is it ridiculous to think that the same concepts that worked for Yellowstone for the last 150 years could preserve your family’s heritage too? Are you against providing that sort of experience to your children, grandchildren, and generations yet unborn?

If not you, who? If not now, when?
Is Now A Bad Time For Real Solutions?

Does anyone on this earth have all the answers? Does that mean we should give up seeking the best answers we can find? Perhaps you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all. Why not find out? Is now a bad time to find out how to obtain security for yourself? And your family?

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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(Warning: Typos Intact, Not Legal Advice)

Greedy Grasping Stepmother?
Conniving Stepsisters?
Stop Me If You’ve Heard This One Before…

Can my step-mother, who has rights to live in the house till she dies, pay lawyers and take money out of my Dads Estate? NO WILL

When sibling took my dad & stepmother to draw up a will, years back. Stepmother said she didn’t want it-she wanted Everything my Dad had. She told him that day she could divorce him & take half of everything. She moved out for a wk when I got POA & he put bene on his Bank accts & investments, leaving her enough to live on & added her to the deed, to live there till she dies -then reverts back to his 3 prev children. I moved in with them, to try to help with his care– she said she was living in Hell & hoped to die in her sleep.. She called him ugly names and smacked him (on his legs) when he was talking late at night and bothering her..

I slept on the sofa beside him – he had his days & nights mixed up.. & trouble sleeping at night.. she would rather him be a nursing home. Now she’s upset that he didn’t leave her ALL and has hired an elder lawyer .. her daughter asked if my Dad’s estate would be paying the bills he paid in life and I’m afraid they are figuring a way to take money away from the house. we aren’t allowed to see or talk to her & they want us to come get our dads belongings that they are putting in his garage. he died Nov 2nd at 85- they were married 26 years. She is 83

Chapter One: 26 Years Of Wedded Bliss

Chapter Two: The Aftermath

Why These Things Happen: When people live longer, they tend to find fault with the other people they’ve been living with. Sometimes those other people die. Frequently they move on. To make other mistakes. With other people. Bringing their baggage along with them. Baggage that frequently includes other human beings, known as “children.” Children who never, at any time, saw in that other person what you saw in the other person. Hope springs eternal. Keeps life interesting.

Just the Facts, Just the Facts: Here’s a story of a lovely lady. Who was bringing up a very lovely girl. It’s the story, of a man named [Fill in the Blank], who was busy with three kids of his own. ‘til the one day when that lady met this fella and they knew that it was much more than a hunch…

But now she refuses to engage in estate planning. He wants his leftovers to go to his kids. After he dies. After she dies. After she has used the marital assets. Then passed over where those assets are no longer needed. But. She wants his leftovers. Now. And when he dies. Nothing for his kids. What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine too.

What Might Have Been: This is not an unusual situation. How do we make sure that the surviving spouse continues to enjoy the life that they have built over the last 20 years? How do we also honor the love each parent has for their kids? How do we honor the commitment that these married folks have made to one another? How do we avoid nursing home poverty that wrecks everything for everyone?

First Things First: An easy way to prevent fights over stuff is to make sure there is no stuff. Not surprisingly, there is a popular way to make sure there is no stuff over which to fight. Simply liquidate lifesavings and pay for a long-term care facility, nursing home, assisted living, or at-home care provider. Care services are extremely expensive now. Care services are getting more expensive by the day. Going broke does seem to be a popular strategy. Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.

Planning to avoid nursing home poverty is well- established. The legal foundations are sound. The beneficial consequences are undeniable. And the psychological effects are much greater than most folks realize. The stepmother in this letter is greedy, grasping, uncooperative, and mean. Maybe that is just who she is. Always has been, always will be. But I wonder. How well do you yourself function when fear and anxiety set in? Imagine yourself threatened. Weak. Unable to control your destiny. Physical and mental decline undeniable. Will you be your best self? Maybe. Maybe not. Would it make any difference if your future were secure? If you knew that there was nothing to worry about. Does security bring generosity?

Gratitude? Sometimes, I guess.

Chances Missed: By rejecting Dad’s efforts to plan, Stepmom put him in a bind. Cooperative, joint, mutual planning that is agreed upon by the couple works best. Dad could write off his kids. Or he could plan for both wife and kids, without Stepmom’s contributions.

Stepmom threatened Dad with divorce. He did not want that. Stepmom insisted Dad disinherit his kids. He did not want that either. So Dad put Sonny-boy’s name on some accounts. It seems that Dad also put Stepmom’s name on other accounts. Dad “put bene on his Bank accts & investments, leaving her enough to live on”.

Plus Stepmom gets (at least) so much of his Social Security Retirement that is more than her own. Maybe pension, too.

I would also guess, from our correspondent, that Dad gave Stepmom a “life estate” in the homestead. After the estate planning fiasco, Dad “added her to the deed, to live there till she dies -then reverts back to his 3 prev children”. That’s a pretty good description of how a life estate works. Dad, who owns the real estate, gives Stepmom the right to live there. For as long as she lives. And after death, the real estate goes to whomever Dad set forth on the deed.

Practical Pointer: What if Stepmom challenges all this and tries to set it aside? Michigan’s Estate and Protected Individual Code has the answers. Stepmom and Dad have no kids together. Stepmom and Dad each have descendants of their own. In this case, surviving Stepmom gets the first $100,000 and splits the remainder with Dad’s kids. Adjusted for inflation since the year 2000, Stepmom would actually get the first $161,000 and divide the remainder equally. One-half for the surviving spouse. One-half divided among the decedent’s children.

Interesting Note: What if Stepmom and Dad had at least one child together? Then Stepmom would get the first $242,000. And divide the rest as usual.

Bottom Line: Dad and Stepmom missed an opportunity to provide for one another and perhaps build a happier life together. Stepmom would probably lose more at this time by contesting rather than accepting Dad’s solution. Can Stepmom leave the homestead in debt by charging expenses against it? Nope. Can Stepmom draw money from the estate that Dad did not leave to her? No. Does it make sense for Stepmom to try and set it all aside? Probably not, but it all comes down to the numbers.

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Does Any Good Deed Go Unpunished?
Or Unrecorded?

What do i do as a successor trustee if the real property deeds were prepared, signed and notarized but never recorded?

it appears that when the trust ws prepared so were the deeds, but the original deeds are still in the binder with the will and trust, etc. and there is no record of them ever being recorded. Can I simply record them now? it has been about 2 years since everything was signed and notarized.

Short Answer: No. Problem. At. All.

Longer Answer: In each county, the Register of Deeds provides a permanent record of transfers, encumbrances, liens, easements, and all the other items that affect the ownership or use of real estate. Provided that the document meets certain minimum requirements, the Register MUST record the document. To prove that the document existed. But there is no legal effect to recording. A recorded deed or other document does not become more “legal” because it is recorded.

Deeds in Michigan are effective when delivered with donative intent. Was the deed written? Was the deed delivered? Did the person writing the deed intend to transfer the property? Recording with the Register of Deeds is, of course, pretty good evidence that you meant to transfer the property, of donative intent. On the other hand, Michigan courts have held that recording a deed with the Register of Deeds is not, all by itself, the answer. Deeds that were recorded without “donative intent” have been thrown out.

Bottom Line: When buying a home, recording the deed is of utmost, paramount, super-duper importance. You need to pay the property taxes. You need to live in the thing. You need to get the mortgage. Git R Done!

Estate planning requirements are different. You already own the darn place. No one is going to evict you. You are doing the planning for purposes other than you need a place to lay your weary head. That’s why it is not unusual for deeds in the estate planning context to be recorded later. Sometimes much later. Sometimes as a privacy strategy. Sometimes just because.

Warning! In Michigan, a recorded deed wins! Unless the person recording the deed knows about a prior unrecorded deed.

Here’s How It Works: Let’s say the person who set up this trust (the “Grantor”) made you the Trustee. Then the Grantor names someone else as Agent under a Financial Power of Attorney. [Yes. This is a really stupid way to do things, but it happens.]

Let’s say that the Trustee sells the home to Person A. Trustee gives Person A the deed putting the house into the Trust. Trustee also gives Person A a deed transferring the house from the Trust to Person A.

Person A sets off for the Register of Deeds, but stops for lunch.

In the meantime, the Agent under the Financial Power of Attorney, sells the house to Person B. Agent gives Person B a deed transferring the house to Person B. Person B had a big breakfast so heads straight to the Register of Deeds and records his deed.

Person B wins the race to the Register of Deeds and records first. Person B has no idea about the trust or Person A. Who owns the house? Person B.

But what if Person B knew about the deed to the Trust? What if Person B was on notice? If Person B knows that Trustee already deeded the house to Person A, Person B loses.

And that’s why Michigan’s recording statute is called “Race/Notice”. Whoever wins the RACE to the Register, without NOTICE of another deed, wins. Ain’t the law fascinatin’?

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It’s Nice To Be Nice. Or Is It?
Is it a liability for me to be on my elderly father’s checking account?

My father is 92 and his only income is the $800 per month that he gets from Social Security and SSI. He’s also on Medicaid. His mind is slipping away quickly and he is having trouble writing checks to pay bills. I’m already on his account as a beneficiary, but he is concerned that he will become incapacitated and he wants to add me to his account as an authorized signer. I am concerned that other, less involved family members, could accuse me of mishandling this money. Is that something that could turn into a liability for me? Are there any other issues I should be looking out for?

Short Answer #1: No, it is not a liability for you to be authorized signer on Dad’s checking account. So long as you do not steal the money. Then you’ve got troubles.

Short Answer #2: Yes, you will become a target for the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that your nearest and dearest will launch in your direction. Nothing you do will be right or fair or just. You will have to sit at the kids’ table at Thanksgiving. Lump of coal in your Christmas stocking.

Longer Answer: You need Dad to give you a Power of Attorney. Then you can do all the things he wants you to do. Be aware: the Social Security Administration does not care about Powers of Attorney. Or probate court guardianship/conservatorship. To satisfy the SSA, you have to become Dad’s “Representative Payee” down at the Social Security office. The Veterans Administration has a similar program.

Ancillary Advice: Get a Health Care Power of Attorney while you are thinking about it.

Free Advice and Worth What You Paid for It: The ultimate legal test here is “Were you stealing?” If not, you are fine. If yes, big BIG penalties. So don’t steal. Do the old man a solid. Get a good Financial Power of Attorney. That means don’t download it from the Interwebs. Spend a few minutes with a real lawyer about the in’s and out’s.

And every time you sign your name to anything for Dad, add a comma, and POA: “John Jones, POA”! You’ll be fine. Probably. Buena suerte.

 


 

Why Don’t You Deserve A Little Payback For All The Taxes You Paid In?

Why Do You Want To Spend Your Last Nickel On Long-Term Care?

Why Shouldn’t The Government Spend Your Money For You?

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long- term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society.

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all.

It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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Better To Light One Candle Than Curse The Darkness
Like A Presidential Press Conference: Typographical Errors Ignored – Punctuational Poltroonery Preserved And Not Legal Advice!

“Neither A Borrower Nor A Lender Be” – Shakespeare

Am I responsible for my husbands credit card debt if the cards are only in his name?
My husband is in a Medicare skilled nursing facility and is receiving SSI disability and is expected not to recover. Am I responsible for his credit cards that he took out in his name only?

Accurate Answer: You are not responsible for your husband’s debts. That is because the credit card company loaned money to your husband, not to you. One hopes you do not feel any twinge of responsibility for his debt.

Problematic Puzzle: Why do credit card companies issue credit cards to older folks who have no reasonable ability to pay them back? Fact: Most older folks are basically honorable. And don’t go bellyaching and begging for debt “forgiveness.” Does the immediate 3-4% credit card fee on everything folks buy on the credit card have anything to do with it? Hmmmm.

Obnoxious Observation: Our correspondent states that her husband in in a “Medicare skilled nursing facility” and “receiving SSI disability.” Probably not. Medicare only pays for a short (20 days) period of rehabilitation. Then you have a $200/day co-pay for the next 80 days.

But Medicare will boot you off rehab before you get the 20 days, so don’t worry about the next 80. Appeal all you want. You will lose. So, husband is probably on Medicaid. And when Social Security figures that out, the Supplemental Security Income (SSI) will vanish. And if anyone tells you that you’ll get 100 days of nursing home on Medicare, feel free to roll your eyes.

“Venus Smiles Not In A House Of Tears” – Shakespeare

Can the next door neighbor sell my friends house , I have a will, he is in nursing home?? My friend is in a nursing home with a brain tumor I am in his will, his next door neighbor wants to sell his house, can he?

Educated Guess: Next Door Neighbor is the guardian/conservator for your friend. OR Your friend has given Next Door Neighbor a financial power of attorney with real estate provisions.

Accurate Answer: Next Door Neighbor has the authority to sell your friend’s house, whether that authority was granted by the Probate Court or by your friend directly. It is common for folks to sell all their stuff when the $10-15,000/ month nursing home bill arrives. It is not usually a good idea, but it is popular. And there you have it.

In Case You Were Wondering: The will has nothing to do with any of this. A will is simply instructions to the Probate Court after the testator (person who made the will) has died. After the person has died. Not before. After death. Postmortem. Will don’t mean a thing.

Until you have died. Period.

“The World Is Not Thy Friend, Nor The World’s Law” – Shakespeare

Can I keep getting my medicaid insurance if I inherent money from a lost parent
My mother recently passed away and left me some inheritance. Medicaid insurance is stating that if i have over 2,015 dollars in my bank account i will lose my insurance. I am
almost disabled and have to have my insurance. This does not make sense to me.
Could you please help me understand if this is right. Thank you

Accurate Answer: Most Medicaid programs for older folks, including the one that pays your Medicare premiums, have an asset limit. The limit on “countable assets” is usually $2000. Countable assets include cash, real estate that is not your homestead, a second car, gold bars, and other items of value. So, if you have $2015 in the bank, you are over. And with Medicaid, over is over. If you are over by one dollar, you are over. If you are over by one million dollars, you are over. And then you lose your benefits.

Shopping Suggestion: Go to the grocery store. Buy a gallon of milk, a loaf of bread, 2 dozen eggs, a stick of butter, 2 pounds of hamburger, a couple of apples. Or one bottle of wine. There. Now your bank account is below $2000! You are welcome, sir!

“Love Is Like A Child, That Longs For Everything It Can Come By” – Shakespeare

What is the best way for me to legally get paid for caring for my bedridden mother 24/7 who draws SS? She lives with me now, and I provide 24/7 care for her, changing her diapers, providing her meals, setting her up for her meals, brush her hair, clip her nails, wash and fold her clothes, pay her bills, etc. My power bill is taking a hit due to the TV and oxygen condenser constantly running.

Would charging rent be the best way? She does have a separate POA person.

So, mother doesn’t mind paying me. Is there a limit to what I can charge? I know the nursing homes take the entire check less $30, then they take that if you want to watch TV in the room to pay the cable bill. So, all my mother needs is to be taken care of, and whatever she needs, I can buy her.

Accurate Answer: In Michigan, the Bridges Eligibility Manual was rewritten years ago to make it virtually impossible to pay a family member caregiver. There is a procedure, but it is so convoluted that regular folks living regular lives will not be able to qualify.

Parent paying rent is a different story. But. Involve a rental property management company or real estate agent (get two of ‘em!). Get a written opinion. What is the market rental for the square footage mom will occupy in your home. Get it in writing.

Do not pay for mom’s stuff. Do not pay her cable bill. Or for her groceries. Or anything else that mom would have to pay for herself. Mom’s expenses have to come from mom’s pocket. This is a trap for generous kids. Over and over. You go to the grocery store. You buy the stuff on mom’s list. You pay for it all. You circle mom’s stuff on the receipt. Mom reimburses you. But because mom has no legal obligation to reimburse you, it will be treated as a gift. And mom will be penalized. So. Use mom’s debit card at the grocery store. Have mom pay her own cable bill. Otherwise, when (if) mom needs long-term care, Medicaid will say she has been giving her money away. And Medicaid will hit mom with a penalty period. Not good.

 


 

Will Your Kids Unite In Thanksgiving?

You Worked Hard, You Played By The Rules
Is It Bad For Your Family To Get A Bit To Be Thankful For?

Did You Leave Your Loved Ones A Belly Ache Of Stale Candy?

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long- term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society.

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all.

It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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News You Can Use, Without All The Yakety-Yak

If You Liked It, Why Didn’t You Put A Ring On It?

QUESTION: Evicting common law spouse from my home? Can I be forced to modify my house for his mobility and care?

Common law spouse decided to have his daughter handle all of his financial and medical care. Prior to this I was an authorized signing agent which I was used for utility’s, groceries and various joint accounts. His daughter will only give authorization for $200 towards electric, purchase his food and handle his medical needs. He has major medical issues. Eventually him will required the use a wheelchair. I myself have been diagnosed with early stages of Dementia and COPD. And limits my abilities as well. No other contribution are made. Intimidating tactics such as demanding $50,000 for him to leave. Or sale my home and give him half. Repeated threats by he and his daughter regarding him leaving. On a daily bases harassing me about the money he claims he is owed to him. Can I legally evict him? Can I be forced to sell my home which was fully paid for 2yrs prior to him moving in? Can I be required to modify my home for his mobility needs?

Throw The Bum Out, And His Little Dog, Too

1. There is no “common law” marriage in Michigan. Show Freddie the Freeloader the door with instructions on use. If he won’t go willingly, evict him. And his pernicious progeny (that means his devil daughter). What an ungrateful wretch!
2. “Repeated threats by he and his daughter regarding him leaving.”
Correct Response To Threats: “Don’t let the door hit you on the keister on your way out!”
3. Specific Questions – Precise Answers
a. “Can I legally evict him?” Yes. Follow the rules exactly. You don’t want to do this part twice.
Or three times.
b. “Can I be forced to sell my home which was fully paid for 2yrs prior to him moving in?”
No. Hell no!
c. “Can I be required to modify my home for his mobility needs?” Nope.

NOTE: Common Law Marriage is recognized by Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Utah, and the District of Columbia. In these localities, if you hold yourself out as married, you are married. It is not a matter of how long you have been together.

So, say “boy/girlfriend,” “significant other,” or “Poopsie”. Do not say, “Husband,” “Wife,” or “Spouse.” And keep your finances separate.

But I Ain’t Got No Money, Honey!

QUESTION: Can I walk away from my mom’s business and home without doing anything once she dies?
My mother has become increasingly irresponsible with money. She is super intelligent, and she has no dementia. She is 86 and still runs her business but it is highly dysfunctional and I’m not sure it makes a lot of money. She gets lots of loans and has taken all her money from a reverse mortgage on her house. She won’t listen to reason. She is secretive about her finances, and she is controlling. I believe she gets these loans knowing she will probably die before she has to pay them all back. I don’t even know how I would be able to unwind any of this to even pay the debts off after to trying to sell her business.

I’m considering just walking away and not doing a thing after she dies as long as I could do this without any legal ramifications for myself.

Where Were You When The S—t Hit The Fan?

1. You are not liable for mom’s debts. Now or after she dies.
2. You might be liable for mom’s debts if she gave stuff to you so that she would be unable to repay. This is the Doctrine of Fraudulent Transfer or Fraudulent Conveyance.
a. Accept nothing from mom for which you did not pay.
b. Maintain books and records to show you supported yourself.
c. Keep your distance. When the proverbial S hits the fan, you do not want to get splattered.
3. At mom’s disability or death, refuse to act as attorney-in-fact, guardian, or conservator. Walk away. Let a public, court-appointed guardian or conservator try to unscramble these eggs.
4. Parents must accept their children’s choices. Children must accept their parent’s choices. And not be ruined in the process.
5. Consult with counsel to erect a legal firewall between you and the dumpster fire that will be your mom’s financial legacy.
6. Love your mom. And don’t be a victim.

NOTE: Nursing homes, lenders, and creditors of all stripes are responding to the deepening recession by aggressively pursuing non-traditional sources of payment. Meaning they’re coming after family, friends, the postman, anybody they can find who may have benefitted from the borrowing. It is not the mom- and-pop law firms doing this sort of collection work. Debt collection law firms are highly organized, technically savvy, and using legal techniques that were once reserved for the “big” cases. They are not going away.

Daddy Dearest

QUESTION: How do I get a full-time aide for my father who refuses to pay for it?
My father is 96 with several co-morbidities. He is in hospice at home I am his full-time aide. I need a break from caring for him 24/7 for the last nine months. The hospice personnel say they can give me 5 days I need a month or more off. He has on-set dementia which I cannot get the Dr’s to sign off on. He can get violent and I am at my wits end with him. When he was normal he was abusive and now he is controlling and manipulating. I need to get away to take care of myself I am 75 yrs old. I thought I could help but this is way too much. He is difficult to manage. What can I do legally I have POA only medically not financially?

Loving, Devoted Child Or Enabling Co-Dependency?
The Parent Child Relationship Is Not A Suicide Pact

1. Get away. Don’t go back.
2. Make dad get a Probate Court- appointed guardian and conservator through:
a. Adult Protective Services
b. Hospice social worker or case manager
c. Local, neighborhood Elder Law Attorney
3. When spouses care for one another, the caregiver spouse dies first 40-50% of the time. Why? Because caring for a loved one is tough, tough stuff. And you are living the worst-case scenario: Dad has “several co-morbidities.” Plus “dementia.” And on a good day, dear old dad was “abusive.” Nowadays, he can “get violent,” “controlling,” and “manipulating.” Ay caramba! What to do?
4. You recognize that “this is way too much.” Remember what Lucy VanPelt said to Charlie Brown: “As they say on TV, the mere fact that you realize you need help indicates that you are not too far gone.”
5. Now’s the time to arrange for a professional guardian and conservator to take over. Paraphrasing 2 Timothy 4:7- 8: You have fought the good fight, you have finished the race, you have kept the faith. 8 Finally, there is laid up for you the crown of righteousness…
6. Love your dad. And don’t be a victim

 


 

How Long Do They Expect Us To Meekly Go Broke?

Social Security Doesn’t Demand Your Last Nickel
Medicare Doesn’t Touch Your Lifesavings
So Why Do You Have To Go Broke For Long-Term Care?

When Is Enough Enough?

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long- term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society.

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

IS NOW A BAD TIME FOR A REAL SOLUTION?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all.

It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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Latest Federal Government Numbers Confirm. Let’s Stop Arguing, It’s Obvious

Bureau Of Economic Analysis Department Of Commerce

bureau of economic analysis recession chart

A picture is worth a thousand words. Recession is when your neighbor loses his job. Depression is when you lose yours. Recovery is when grifting politicians lose theirs. This is the most predictable recession in history. Everybody knows that when America displays weakness, things get out of hand. In Europe. In the Middle East. No surprise. Everybody knows that when you print trillions of dollars, you get inflation. When you promise to wave a magic wand and make hundreds of billions of dollars in loans just… disappear, you demoralize everyone who played by the rules. And cause more inflation. We can all see that when prominent politicians try to criminalize other Americans, based on their political views, you get strife. And we all know that if there is no consequence to crime, we will all get a lot more crime.

Is it ridiculous to protect yourself and your family first? How can the government command respect when it fails in its most basic obligations: security, peace, safety? Is this a bad time to stop kidding ourselves? Is now too soon to restore some sanity? If not now, when? If not you, who?

Government Newspaper, Washington Post, Supports Government
Don’t Worry — Recession Is Good! — Be Happy
In Other News: Dog Bites Man

Once upon a time, newspapers and the government had a healthy rivalry.

Civil War General William Tecumseh Sherman was clear. ““I hate newspapermen. They come into camp and pick up their camp rumors and print them as facts. I regard them as spies, which, in truth, they are. If I killed them all there would be news from Hell before breakfast.”

First Amendment Founding Father Thomas Jefferson was equally blunt. “Nothing can now be believed which is seen in a newspaper. Truth itself becomes suspicious by being put into that polluted vehicle.”

Today of course, great, metropolitan newspapers, like the Washington Post, bravely toe the party line. Providing cover for clownish political poltroons who cannot remember what they are doing in the room or how to get off the stage…

Would it make you happy to know that devastating recessions have seven (7) silver linings? Your retirement has been gutted. Your shopping cart is empty. Your grandkids would not know what to do with a job if it bit them on the behind. Inflation is up. Gross Domestic

Product shrinks. Then, just as you were feeling a little stressed, the Washington Post pops up with a timely tale worthy of Shakespeare!

Forget about 7 Deadly Sins, 7 Brides for 7 Brothers, or the Magnificent Seven… Here are:

7 Silver Linings To The Recession

1. Housing prices may finally come down to reasonable levels. Interest rates have skyrocketed for six straight weeks so you won’t be able to afford the monthly payment. And there’s No Money Left Behind after you pay for groceries, but lookit that low low price!

mortgage rates september 2022

2. Savings rates are up. Your inflated, wall- paper dollars don’t buy anything anymore. So, you may as well save ‘em!

3. I bonds interest rate might go even higher. I Series Savings Bonds adjust the interest rate for inflation. There’s been so much inflation, the interest rate is high as an elephant’s eye. Almost as high as inflation. Ha ha, you still lose.

I bond interest rates

4. The dollar is king. Inflation is high. Interest rates are high. The U.S. Dollar exchange rate is high. Now you can go visit the King. In England. So cheap! And you have plenty of time to go. Dollars are so expensive, no one can afford “Made In America” stuff. So you are out of a job. Cheerio!

english pound versus dollar chart

5. Unemployment is still relatively low. More kids living at home with Mom and Dad. And enjoying it. Fewer workers. Same jobs. Lower unemployment.

6. Your used car is worth more. Hope you like your old clunker! The average cost of a new car is $48,043. So you ain’t getting’ one! Thank you, Kelly Blue Book.

new vehicle prices chart

7. Student loan forgiveness is coming. Another Trillion Dollar giveaway from the working people of America to the pot-smoking, latte-sipping, firebomb-throwing misfits who turned college into an 8-year vacation. Why shouldn’t it be free?

Why Don’t You Deserve A Little Payback For All The Taxes You Paid In?
Why Do You Want To Spend Your Last Nickel On Long-Term Care?
Why Shouldn’t The Government Spend Your Money For You?

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long-term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society,

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all. It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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SEVERAL YEARS AT BERNIE’S?

QUESTION: What is it called when one deprives another notification of their parent’s death so to deprive them of their share of benefit?
I just found out that both of my parents have died, but years ago. After hoodwinking and railroading them, my mega millionaire sibling had taken measures to cut me off from them, before they’d died. It has been horrendous for me. Even just to find out that my parents had passed was bad enough, but that the way and how they’d died never would have happened if I’d not been cut out of their lives as I had been, after taking great and particular care of them myself, beforehand.

Short Answer: “Horrendous”? More like “Preposterous”! Mom and Dad die years ago. But until evil sibling got involved, you provided “great and particular care” that would inevitably have prolonged their lives. For years. But you, the “great and particular” caregiver, never wondered why all those Christmas and birthday cards kept getting returned? Are there no telephones? Did they live on Gilligan’s Island? Did you? I have “smell test” issues with this one… A little too self-serving, methinks

Long Answer: On the other hand, it is not unusual to see relatives who isolate and sequester disabled loved ones away from other family members. Sometimes the child acts from the best of generous, honorable motives: offering a refuge of peace for the loved one, away from family feuding, squabbling, and raw emotional outbursts. Sometimes domineering impulses, seasoned with jealousy, and spiced with greed motivate the selfish child to restrict access.

Unless there is objective abuse, usually, working out the currents of control are left to the family. Courts and judges have no interest or expertise in resolving the emotional debris of decades, and in some cases, generations. Judging from the unceasing torrent of self-help books on the subject, it does not seem that anyone else has any “great or particular” success with these heartfelt matters either. We must all do the best we can. “It’s a fool who looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.” Joel Cohen.

Longer Answer: But this question is not all about “hearts and flowers” is it? Oh no! Our correspondent is particularly concerned that the mega millionaire sibling acted “so to deprive them of their share of benefit”. And by benefit, our correspondent means money. Or property. Or other stuff. So, what about that?
When stuff is at stake, courts do get involved. It is what they do best!

UNDUE INFLUENCE!
“Undue Influence.” is the legal theory. Here is how it works. Four (4) scenarios. Mom has money. Mom also has 2 children, A and B.

Scenario #1 No Undue Influence
1. Mom likes Child A better. And always has.
2. For years, without change, Mom’s will or trust leaves all her stuff to Child A.
3. Mom lives and acts independently.
4. Mom up and dies.
5. Child A gets everything. Child B is sick as mud.
6. Child B can go pound sand.

Scenario #2 Challenger Must Prove There WAS Undue Influence
1. Mom likes Child A better. And always has.
2. Recently, Mom, changed her will or trust to leave all her stuff to Child A.
3. Mom lives and acts independently.
4. Mom up and dies.
5. Child A gets everything. Child B is sick as mud. Child B sues.
6. Child B must prove that Child A unduly influenced Mom. An almost impossible task.
7. Child B can go pound sand.

Scenario #3 Defender Must Prove There WAS NOT Undue Influence – Formal Fiduciary
1. Mom likes Child A better. And always has.
2. Mom appoints Child A as her Trustee and Agent. In writing.
3. Mom changes her will or trust to leave all her stuff to Child A.
4. Mom up and dies.
5. Child A gets everything. Child B is sick as mud. Child B sues.
6. Now it is Child A who must prove that Child A DID NOT unduly influence Mom. An almost impossible task.
7. Child B gets a half-share. Child A can go pound sand.

Scenario #4 Defender Must Prove There WAS NOT Undue Influence – Informal Fiduciary
1. Mom likes Child A better. And always has.
2. Mom moves in with Child A. Child A helps with all Mom’s decisions. Child A prevents others from visiting Mom. Mom is totally dependent on Child A.
3. Child A is not Mom’s Trustee and Agent.
4. Mom changes her will or trust to leave all her stuff to Child A.
5. Mom up and dies.
6. Child A gets everything. Child B is sick as mud. Child B sues.
7. Now it is Child A who must prove that Child A DID NOT unduly influence Mom. An almost impossible task.
8. Child B gets a half-share. Child A can go pound sand.

Key Take-aways With Undue Influence: If you must prove it, you lose it. Also, if the beloved parent has appointed you formally, in writing, as their trusted agent/advisor/trustee, then you must prove you did nothing to “unduly influence” the beloved parent. The same rule applies, even if there is nothing in writing, if the beloved parent is dependent on you.

So, if you are caring for mom, dad, auntie, grampa, and providing for all their needs, or they “honored” you with the responsibility of trustee or agent, you MUST establish, by affidavit, deposition, or otherwise, that the beloved relative was acting independently. If you do not, you will lose.

KID’S NAME ON DEED IS NO-GOOD, AWFUL, VERY BAD

QUESTION: WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO PUT AN ADULT CHILDS NAME ON CONDO OWNERSHIP WITH ELERLY PARENT.
Mom is elderly.. She is of sound mind and has mentioned to me that she would like to get my name on her condo.. what does that entail?
Is that what joint tenancy is? What will alleviate issues upon death – in other words avoid probate…. My guess is she needs to hire an attorney. What paperwork should I have her gather together.

Short Answer: “Best Way”? How about “No Way”!

Long Answer: Folks like to put their kids’ names on deeds, stock certificates, bank accounts, investments, and anything else they can think of. There is simply no good reason to put your kid’s name on this stuff. If you only want to avoid probate (dumb!), use a revocable living trust. If you want to avoid probate and nursing home poverty, and have time, use a LifePlanning™ Trust. If you don’t have time, use a trust plus a transfer-on-death deed (in Michigan and a few other states).

The Thing: Here’s the thing, most “estate planning” attorneys cheerfully admit that they have no clue as to what is going on with long-term care. Most so-called “elder law” attorneys should admit the same thing. It is tough to discern good advice when it comes to planning for long-term care. That means you have a tough job, but it is doable.

Ask the following questions:
1. How many Medicaid divestment trusts have you drafted for clients?
2. What happens after I sign the documents?
a. Do you have a mandatory process to get my stuff into the trusts?
b. Do I get my original trust documents?
c. How do you verify that my stuff has been retitled to my trusts?
3. How many Medicaid programs are available for long-term care?
4. Can I get help with skilled care at home? How much will that cost?
5. How many Medicaid applications have you personally prepared and filed for clients?
6. What is the PACE program?
7. What is Medicaid waiver?
8. What is the Initial Asset Assessment? When does it happen?

There are lots more questions to ask, but by this time, most attorneys will be shaming you for wanting to preserve your lifesavings. They think it is ridiculous that you should get some pay back on the tax dollars you paid in. They think you should go broke. They think your spouse or family should be happy with crumbs. Do you think they are on your side? Let’s not be too harsh… maybe they just don’t know any better. It’s more than possible, it’s likely.

NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED

My older friend wanted me to come stay with him to due to personal and cancer reasons. he asked my ladyfriend to become his caretaker and he would cover her living expenses. She ended up paying for everything food etc….. he even spent checks he was suposed to give her…. He passed away almost a year and a half of her caring for him like an angel being maid nurse cook, but she wants to know how long she has to pack up.

Short Answer: As long as you can drag out the eviction process.

Long Answer: You and your lady friend the angel have nothing in writing from your deceased “older friend”. Probate law will not allow you to make any claim for payment or even reimbursement for the “food ect”. Plus your friend embezzled the checks the angel was supposed to receive!! That all stinks. But in this world of ours, the reward for generosity is often resentment and selfishness. Look around. You know I’m right.

Longer Answer: They cannot make you leave the house without going through the formal eviction process. In some places, COVID rules may still prohibit evictions. It’s worth finding out. Legally, you are a holdover tenant or tenant at sufferance. The new owners of the house cannot simply put you on the street. They must give you 30 days’ notice, Termination of Tenancy. You can leave at that point or make them go to court for an Order of Eviction, after a Summary Proceeding.

Why not make them go through the whole darn process? Unless they agree to reimburse you for the grocery money. And a few bucks on top?

Moral of the Story: You are not a bad person for wanting to get a written agreement to pay you money in exchange for services. You are a smart person, with a good heart, who does not want to be played for a chump. So get it in writing!

Medicaid Observation: The payments you get under the agreement will not be acceptable to Medicaid and will be treated as gifts with penalties to the “older friend.” So what? If the friend needs you to give the money back, do so (if you are able). Then do a promissory note with interest so that eventually you will get every nickel to which you are entitled. And not a penny more.

Lawyer Sales Pitch: Don’t try to do this yourself. You have to pay for the privilege of working diligently for 18 months and when it is all said and done, you will get evicted. Is it possible that all this could have been avoided? Maybe with a little legal counsel? Maybe?

 


 

I’m As Mad As Hell And I’m Not Going To Take This Anymore!
Howard Beale, Network, 1976

How Did It All Go So Wrong, So Quickly?

We’re Not Gonna Take It, No, We Ain’t Gonna Take It, We’re Not Gonna Take It Anymore!
Dee Snider, Twisted Sister, 1984

Traditional estate planning is concerned with avoiding probate, saving taxes, and dumping your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long- term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society,

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all. It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

Traditional Trust Planning Failure A Scam? Say It Ain’t So!

Traditional estate planning is supposed to avoid probate, save taxes, and dump your leftover stuff on your beneficiaries. After you die. Nobody cares what happens to you while you are alive. How does that help anyone? Stupid.

Traditional estate planning fails because the overwhelming majority of us will need long-term skilled care. 70% of us. For an average of 3 years. And we will go broke paying for it.

Is it surprising that thousands of recreation properties: cottages, cabins, hunting land, are lost to pay for long-term care? Why is your estate planner hurting you and your family? It is evil intent? Or stupidity?

LifePlanning™ defeats Nursing Home Poverty. Keep your stuff. Get the care you have already paid for. Good for you. Good for your family. Good example for society.

When my mother suffered from the dementia which led to her death, over 10 years ago, their estate plan preserved their lifesavings. Mom’s months in the nursing home did not mean Dad’s impoverishment. Dad spent the last years with security and peace of mind.

Is Now A Bad Time For A Real Solution?

Perhaps you think you already have an answer to this problem. Maybe you do not see this as a problem at all. It is possible that you do not believe in the passage of time or its effects on you.

Peace of mind and financial security are waiting for everyone who practices LifePlanning™. You know that peace only begins with financial security. Are legal documents the most important? Is avoiding probate the best you can do for yourself or your loved ones? Is family about inheritance? Or are these things only significant to support the foundation of your family?

Do you think finding the best care is easy? Do you want to get lost in the overwhelming flood of claims and promises? Or would you like straight answers?

Well, here you are. Now you know. No excuses. Get the information, insight, inspiration. It is your turn. Ignore the message? Invite poverty? Or get the freely offered information. To make wise decisions. For you. For your loved ones.

The LifePlan™ Workshop has been the first step on the path to security and peace for thousands of families. Why not your family?

NO POVERTY. NO CHARITY. NO WASTE.
It is not chance. It is choice. Your choice.

Get Information Now. (800) 317-2812

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